Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel

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Reading Reflection written December 2023

What is it about the familiar that comforts yet becomes so underwhelming?

How does romance, eroticism and domesticity present itself in 2024?

What role does possession play in the theatre of committed relationships?

What makes this book so invaluable is how intimate and vulnerable the stories shared inside are; to be privy to strangers deepest darkest and lightest fantasies is unifying. Esther’s writing skills are like no other, her ideas are mesmerising and multidimensional; someone who knows nine languages has a mind I want to bask in. Esther pushes the reader to not settle for the ordinary and mundane; to live and not simply be alive. Why should marriage and having children be the precursor for a death sentence for a life where sex-is-on-fire.

Read this when you want to resuscitate transcendental passion. Read again and again when you choose not to settle for unremarkable.